The stage is where all eyes are on you. Here is where you have the opportunity to catch others’ attention and acknowledge whose eyes you’ve caught in the room. The stage is filled with all kinds of emotions. It may be a nightmare for some, while others become a star and climb the heights of people fantasies or at least to the top of the pole.

During my 20 years of dancing, I have endured every one of those emotions. I have felt fear, shyness, embarrassment, bashfulness, uncomfortableness, and I have also felt the high when I get a standing ovation, so confident my ego was soaring, money thrown from all angles that it looks like the sky is raining cash. Praises, compliments, and admiration only continue to fuel my self-esteem and confidence.

Epic fails happen more often than you may think. All kinds of things can happen during a stage performance. The art of performing also means to play it off smoothly. “The show must go on!” You must make unpredictable incidents unnoticed & roll with whatever happens. Wardrobe malfunctions, slippery stage, oily pole, wigs falling off, accessories snags, broken jewelry, heels breaking, missteps, trips, and falls, even being on stage longer than expected where the next girl is nowhere to seen, to even recognizing a family member in the crowd.

The show MUST GO ON.

Being on stage can also be a high. The same effect like any other drug, the good and the bad. Some days you can feel as if you are Madonna herself performing her best set and the audience is going crazy. You barely have time to rake up your money or put back on your clothes and a line as formed off stage, waiting to be the first to get your attention.

Then, there will be other days where you are not feeling like Madonna, however, you still must go up there, do your best performance, get stark naked in front of a room filled with people with your feelings of vulnerableness and apprehensiveness.

When you are not feeling your best, your nerves and mind will try to get the best of you. You will be hypersensitive to whispers, looks, & chatters. You’re swagger diminishes, and you’ll feel like you keep tripping over your own two feet. Sometimes, the lack of money or patrons on stage could trigger these insecurities. The more you think about it, the more anxious you will feel and the mind will continue to plays tricks on you, toiling with your emotions. You are a performer, you still must go on.

Watching other dancers on stage may also play on your nerves. By doing this, you will amp yourself up by comparison of how well or not well the other dancers are doing. This is something I learned not to do. Every performer is unique in every way, appearance, suaveness, attitude, dance moves, and talent. Nevermind what they are doing, I found that I perform better and was less nervous when I stopped comparing myself to others.

In my 20 years I have learned to have a strong mindset. Mindset is everything whether you are a dancer or not. A strong mind can conquer all or it will conquer you. I never really got over stage freight completely, it comes and goes throughout my 20 years. There will always be different sicarios you’ll find yourself in, but that is a vital part of getting better and stronger.

Stage sets are usually only 3 songs, approximately 10-12 mins. It helps if you can select songs that you enjoy, the time will speed by quickly to a good tune and you can dance like nobody is watching. Patrons enjoy watching this as well as they too may shy and uncomfortable. There is always somebody watching, even if the stage is empty, eyes can be from the bar, from the tables, from the couches across the room. Dancers should still perform with an empty stage. It is not the easiest thing, but how else will you attract somebody to go to stage?

I see too many dancers not performing on stage due to an empty stage where there are no patrons or money. No matter if there are 1 or 10 patrons in the club, performers should always perform. I have learned that not performing will surely get you no money. There is nothing to entice a patron to approach the stage, there is no playful tease, no connecting eye contact, or any sort of emanating interest. This is where I learned the art of seduction. While other dancers are not doing their job, there lies the opportunity to do and be better.

The stage is where the infamous pole is. This is where dancer would show off their acrobatic talents and strengths. It’s not my thing, although I have tried it, and I have climbed to the top of a 2 story tall brass pole. I got back down safely, and now I can check it of my bucket list. It is not for everybody.

I call myself a danceless dancer, where my moves are not technical dance moves, but more like sexy seductive poses. I move slowly, lots of smiles, eye contact, giggles, with cheeky teases. My presence is sophisticated, pleasant, playful, & tasteful. We are all unique, and this is my uniqueness.

The contrast is the more aggressive type. The ones that like to play DOM and berate men. This works for them. Some performers move fast and go through their routines without any crowd interactions. Some just stay on the pole afar from the crowd. Some may have talents of a contortionist, while others love to be salacious and possess no shame. Having variety in the strip club is a good thing. That is entertainment.

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